’ve struggled with body image and self-confidence for most of my adult life. Now, at 42, I wish I could say I’ve moved past it — but the truth is, that confidence still hasn’t fully returned.

When I look in the mirror, I don’t always see the progress. I see stretch marks — not from pregnancy, but from rapid weight gain in my early 20s. I see loose skin from weight loss, slowly improving, but never fast enough for my inner critic. Sure, I’m smaller than I was in my 20s, but in my mind, it’s still not good enough. I’ve always been my own worst critic — and I’m working to change that.

I see a woman with large breasts that feel out of proportion. I zero in on the stretch marks on my calves instead of appreciating how strong my legs have become. I see new muscle definition in my arms — but focus on the loose skin under my triceps instead.

This toxic mindset has overshadowed so many wins in my fitness journey, but I know this isn’t what others see.

I’ve caught glances at the gym. I’ve had women I don’t even know come up and tell me how amazing I look and that they’ve noticed my progress. These moments remind me to keep going — and they made me realize something…

We need more of this.

More community for women over 40 who are on a fitness journey but not chasing six-pack abs. More support for those of us struggling with confidence, body acceptance, and self-love.

So, I’m building that space — right here. This blog is more than just fitness tips or recipes. It’s a journal, a reflection, and a safe place to talk about the hard stuff.

I want to create a supportive fitness community where you can celebrate the little wins and feel safe to share your struggles. Where it’s not about the number on the scale or perfect abs, but about showing up for yourself.

Because the truth is: health and wellness over 40 isn’t easy. But the best things in life never are.

💪 Tracked every meal this week? That’s a win.
💪 Moved your body today? That’s a win.
💪 Messed up three days out of seven? You’re human — learn and move forward.

Find people who get it. Who will celebrate your wins and hold space for your setbacks. I have an online friend on a weight loss journey too, and we check in after workouts. That accountability — that connection — has made a huge impact on my mindset.

So, if you’re here reading this, struggling with self-esteem, weight loss, or how to feel confident in your own skin again — know this:

You are not alone.
You are worthy.
And you are making progress — even when it doesn’t feel like it.

Let’s keep going. Together. 💗